tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9818962.post4795705728432789489..comments2024-03-20T13:10:11.477+05:30Comments on nanopolitan: When parents get pushyAbihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06790560045313883673noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9818962.post-54643253292989723962006-09-13T12:16:00.000+05:302006-09-13T12:16:00.000+05:30Anant, Sue, Swarup: Thanks for your comments.
Tha...Anant, Sue, Swarup: Thanks for your comments.<br /><br />That was a nice quote, Anant!<br /><br />Sue: How much is too much? That's a hard question. Children seem so, um, resilient that it's difficult to figure out when we are stressing them too much. It's one thing to let them do (and actually, create opportunities for them to do) more of what they really like. It's quite another to expect them to 'perform'; in cases such as those of Alissa Quart and Normal Wiener, parental over-reach is quite easy to spot. <br /><br />Swarup: While I agree that parental influence is not much in many realms, I'm not at all sure that parents cannot do harm by being too pushy. <br /><br />When parents push their children into specific sets of activities (reading, music, chess, what have you), the children end up doing things in settings where other influences (peers!) are blocked. I think the danger of real, lasting damage is very real.Abihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06790560045313883673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9818962.post-77143987615557214222006-09-08T10:44:00.000+05:302006-09-08T10:44:00.000+05:30May be parents should look at Judith Harris' work ...May be parents should look at Judith Harris' work discussed in various books includind the recent ones of Pinker and "Freakonomics". I do not agree with some of her conclusions ( see my 'review' of freakonomics' in my blog) but on the whole I think that parents' efforts have less influence than they think. There are some interesting recent experiments on related matters discussed in (needs subscription):<br />http://www.newscientist.com/channel/being-human/mg19125672.000<br />As usual, I may be completely wrong.gaddeswaruphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16509075029154476375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9818962.post-31190915864997003062006-09-08T01:19:00.000+05:302006-09-08T01:19:00.000+05:30Its a very interesting dilemma - how much to push ...Its a very interesting dilemma - how much to push your children? what if you are not pushing them enough that they can't realise their immense hidden potential? what if you do too much? what is just right? <br /><br />I think most of it stems from the insecurity of parents.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9818962.post-51310534304795424792006-09-07T19:05:00.000+05:302006-09-07T19:05:00.000+05:30Reminds me of an old definition of a
child prodigy...Reminds me of an old definition of a<br />child prodigy: normal child with<br />abnormal parentsAnanthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12974808252913561726noreply@blogger.com